{"id":1756,"date":"2020-09-29T12:17:00","date_gmt":"2020-09-29T18:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/?p=1756"},"modified":"2021-01-08T12:43:05","modified_gmt":"2021-01-08T19:43:05","slug":"how-to-write-an-asexual-character","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/2020\/09\/29\/how-to-write-an-asexual-character\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Write an Asexual Character"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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What’s Up Danger by Lauren Hemphill<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

As more folks are being introduced to the world of asexuality, there are some writers who are looking into writing these characters. So how do you write a convincing asexual? As your neighborhood certified ace, I\u2019m here to help you out in seven quick steps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We’re Not That Kind Of Asexual<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019re not all the same. That\u2019s the first, huge point. The biggest thing about us is that we just don\u2019t experience sexual attraction. So no looking at someone and feeling our bits get warm or erect. (Generally.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Aesthetic and Sexual Attraction Are Different<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that we don\u2019t look at someone and think they\u2019re pretty or are attracted to their aesthetic. Personally, I like the muscular woman aesthetic. I\u2019m sure from all the art of muscle wives I\u2019ve reposted on my twitter, you never would\u2019ve guessed. This doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019d have sex with these women. It just means I really like how they look.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Asexual Doesn’t Mean No Libido <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This is also not to say we never have a libido. Your characters can get horny, but from my experience, that\u2019s never directed at a specific person. It\u2019s just an annoying feeling that shows up.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Asexual Isn’t Aromantic<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Not all ace folks are aro! Aromantic are people who don\u2019t feel romantic attraction. I might be aro? And from my experience, I don\u2019t look at anyone and feel like I want to kiss them, or I want to have romantic evenings or anything. Your asexual character can want to be part of a romantic relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Asexual Isn’t A Hatred Of Sex<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Not only that, but some ace folks do enjoy sex! There are many who don\u2019t, many who are indifferent, and many who enjoy it.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We Aren’t Robots<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Avoid making your only ace character a robot, honestly. It\u2019s a common trope, and it\u2019s not necessarily a good one in the community.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Check With A Sensitivity Reader<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When you finish writing your character, see if you can find an asexual sensitivity reader! They\u2019ll help make sure your character is set up properly.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We Are Just As Unique And Different As You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The biggest thing is to treat us like we\u2019re people. Just because we experience the world differently, doesn\u2019t mean we\u2019re robots, or don\u2019t have emotions, or don\u2019t feel love of any sort. I\u2019m a huge lover! I tell my friends all the time and attempt to get them gifts whenever I can. I just don\u2019t experience the world the same way they do.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Research, Research, Research<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Additionally, don’t just rely on this tiny little guide. Do lots of research, just like you should do for any other character you want to write that doesn’t share your experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Hope that helps someone out there! Feel free to ask any questions in the comments below, and I\u2019ll do my best to answer! Stay safe out there!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As more folks are being introduced to the world of asexuality, there are some writers who are looking into writing these characters. So how do you write a convincing asexual? As your neighborhood certified ace, I\u2019m here to help you out in seven quick steps. We’re Not That Kind Of…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":[]},"categories":[629],"tags":[564,448,559,567,563,565],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p27tjX-sk","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1756"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1756"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1756\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1988,"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1756\/revisions\/1988"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1756"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1756"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winter-publishing.com\/welcome-to-winter\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1756"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}